The very first session I had with you was tremendously powerful. I did not realise it at the time, though for a few days afterwards I felt a happiness and a confidence that I have rarely experienced in my life. You were able to establish a connection with me and I felt deeply understood and welcomed. I think that it is this capacity for empathy that made all the difference. There might be plenty of therapeutic approaches out there, but what really makes a difference is the capacity of the therapist to empathize with the patient. In order to do so, the therapist needs to have undergone her own healing journey and made her discoveries available to her clients. And you certainly did that. In addition, you had the ability to shape the sessions in a way that I felt ownership of my own changes and discoveries. I felt I could relax and trust. I did not have to resist any hidden ideology or agenda. And it is only within a space of trust that changes can take place. My journey has only begun, but I am not the same person I was only a few months ago. And my capacity to love - myself and other people - has started blooming."
I don't know what angelic force sent you, or allowed me to find you, but the English language is insufficient to express to you how much I appreciate this. I have been to about a "trillion" practitioners, over the years but I haven't seen anything even close to this!!
You have a quality and talent that is almost surreal, in terms of the reality of what you do. Or, I mean, the manifestation of what you are doing in my life is actually startling.
Thank You Is Inadequate,"
I have had the pleasure of studying the seen and unseen influences on our psyche and physical bodies for 25 years. The result is I have many tools I interweave when working with clients. If your interested in the details check out my CV.
Our work uncovers the love that underlies what appear to be shortcomings of our parents and ourselves. Often this love is manifested in unwanted behaviors or feelings that are rooted in loyalty to our families. Sometimes it involves taking on burdens and problems in a child like attempt to help. Sometimes we take on unwanted behaviors so we can be connected when love seems impossible. It is important to feel the emotions that are a product of difficult events in our lives. It is also important not to reinforce the story that has been accepted as the reason for problems. It is imperative to see the story from a new perspective in order to be freed from the perpetrator / victim dichotomy. Seeing that the perpetrator was once the victim of the same pattern is often significant. Transformation happens when we know that love underlies even the most questionable behaviors and events.
I have always been interested in the essence beneath the surface. In 1985, I began working as a hypnotherapist to explore the unknown. I studied Neuro Linguistic Programming with the people who began that movement, John Grinder and Richard Bandler. I also worked as a master trainer for Tony Robbins.
People came to me complaining of an inability to be, do or feel what they wanted in their lives. These inabilities were highlighted by events in the present. Those events were part of a pattern. What was happening in the present had happened, not just once before, but often many times in different ways. The pattern would sometimes be invisible to clients, because they were in the middle of it. Having an external viewpoint allowed the patterns to be seen. Relief would come when we went back in time and uncovered the original event that was the foundation of the pattern. Then, with a new awareness, the old events were integrated and released.
Training with Asha Clinton I learned a very effective method to integrate and release events. The work was then called Seemorg Matrix but has since changed its name to Advanced Integrative Therapy. I found myself going further and further back into the lives of my clients, often to their birth and prenatal experience, to release the foundation of a pattern. It was very enlightening to discover that the patterns often started prior to birth. In 1999, I worked for a couple of years doing past life readings.
In 2002 I began my study of Family Constellations inspired by Bert Hellinger. It became clear that patterns that began in prior generations were actually inherited just as our DNA is. When the events and emotional patterns of our ancestors were not integrated in their lifetime, they were passed on to us. I call the work as it has evolved for me Family Systems Work.
Some clients have a physical issue that will not resolve with physical treatment alone. I work with two effective methods if this is the case, The Journey work of Brandon Bays or Body-Mind work of Penelope Young. The Journey uses the body’s wisdom to discover what events have been stored at the cellular level and provides a path to freedom and love. With Body-Mind work I lead the client into an experience of total presence in the body. This often begins with feeling discomfort or pain that eventually leads to a physical and spiritual experience of bliss and unity.
I mention these methods individually because I am grateful to the teachers who have shared their wisdom with me. Over the years they have intertwined and evolved to become my own. They are uniquely integrated in each session, to bring the client fully into the present moment in their body, while simultaneously integrating key feelings and events that occurred in the past.
Liberation and happiness require embracing “all that is”. When we put up barriers of fear or rejection we stop the flow. Whatever we reject or judge remains trapped in our field until we can agree to it and allow it to be part of us. When we do, it becomes a source of strength and joy rather than an obstacle.
Together we can find the hidden love at the foundation of unwanted feelings and behaviors. You can be free to be your whole self. I would be honored to partner with you in this journey of discovery.
Wendy Lund is a Wholeness coach, family Systems Therapist, hypnotherapist, minister, healer, and intuitive counselor. She is certified in Advanced Integrative Therapy and BodyMind Therapy. Wendy studied Neurolinguistic Programming with John Grinder and Richard Bandler. She was a senior trainer with Tony Robbins for five years. Wendy has studied Family Systems Work with Bert Hellinger, and she has been facilitating Family Constellations since 2002. See her CV for additional educational information.